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A Beginners Guide if you are invited to a Malay Muslim Wedding in SG

 

A Beginners Guide if you are invited to a Malay Muslim Wedding in SG
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Hi Readers.


So you are invited to a Malay Muslim wedding reception but you have no idea what to expect or have never been to one before. 


Here is a beginners guide to it for those who never been to a Malay Muslim Wedding reception:

1) Do dress smart and modestly

2) Do enjoy the food and music

3) Do bring gifts (money and/or items)

4) Do meet with the bride and groom

5) Do meet with the parents of the bride and/or groom

6) Do come within the time range given

7) Don't bring your own food or drinks


1) Do dress smart and modestly


As it is a wedding, do dress smart and modestly irregardless on whether it is held in a hotel, restaurant or event hall. Normally, we don't expect formal attire but you are welcome to wear our malay traditional wear (baju kurung or kebaya for ladies, baju melayu or batik shirts for men) or your own traditional wear. But please, no shorts, singlets or slippers.

As malay muslims are more conservative, do dress modestly, i.e. no skimpy dresses that show a lot of skin is recommended. As for colour, we don't have any preference, you can wear any colour as preferred. 


2) Do enjoy the food and music


Usually for a wedding, there will be a lot of food and music (which can be loud).

Standard food items during a wedding are Nasi Bryani or Nasi Minyak with various side dishes, popular ones being rendang and ayam masak merah. Desserts can range from the traditional kuehs to cakes and cream puffs. While food is normally given buffet style, there are times when the food is given by courses. These depends on the families preferences.


For music, it depends on the family's preferences as well so there may be malay music, arabic/islamic music and even other languages like hindi music.  


3) Do bring gifts (money and/or items)


Usually a token of appreciation for inviting is given to the parent of the bride or groom in the form of money. Small gifts is also accepted. Compared to other cultures, there is no fixed amount to give and any amount given is greatly appreciated. 


4) Do meet with the bride and groom


If time permits and given the chance, do stay at the event until you can meet with the bride and groom personally. This is usually during the photo taking session. This is when guests are allowed to meet the bride and groom and take photos with them.


5) Do meet with the parents of the bride and/or groom


The hosts of the wedding reception are typically the parents of the bride or/and groom so it is best to meet them when you enter and before you leave. The money/ gift should be also given to them. If you are invited from the groom side, then you should meet with the groom parents. If you are invited from the bride's side, then you should meet with the bride's parents. If you know both sides, you can meet with both parents.


6) Do come within the time range given


Most invitations have the stated time range when the wedding reception starts, ends and when the bride and groom is arriving. Be respectful of this.


7) Don't bring your own food or drinks


Try not to bring your own food or drinks to the wedding. There is enough food and drinks for everyone. This is also because being muslim, alcohol related products and non-halal foods should not be at the wedding (even as gifts). 


Covid period


While normally before Covid you can sit anywhere you like and mingle, but due to Covid restrictions, you have to sit at your assigned table and not mingle around. Food and music are also limited due to the restrictions, some only having light music and 3 course meals with limited dishes. There is also a shorter time frame with some weddings receptions being only 3 hours long.


Overall, the most important thing is to have fun and enjoy the wedding reception.




My name is Nurul and I am a Malay Muslim girl that lives in Singapore. I am a bookworm, halal foodie and nerd/geek. I love to learn and try new things.

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